8 Reasons I Love Having an Introverted Husband

  1. He doesn’t always stand out in a crowd but flourishes amongst close friends

My husband can seem standoffish in a group setting full of people he doesn’t know, while I am very outgoing and can strike up a conversation with just about anyone. My flaw is that I don’t put a lot of time into any one person, and because of that, do not have a tight-knit group of friends.

My husband, however, does not feel the need to be social or gain approval. He is able to put all his effort in a small group of friends that is more meaningful and longer lasting.

2. He teaches me something new every day

My husband is extremely book smart. He knows random definitions to words, history dates, and fun facts about everything. He knows that he is smarter than the average bear, but he very rarely lets on. Instead, he teaches me the things I don’t know. I am always learning and asking questions. It is literally like walking around with a human dictionary. Faster than I can ask Siri!

3. He has the patience of a Saint

Sometimes, this drives me absolutely crazy- partly because I am the exact opposite, but mostly because I have no idea how he does it.  I am all for giving chances, but there is a certain limit. He very rarely lets anything bother him- and I mean anything. The waitress can bring us the wrong food three times, and he stays as cool as a cucumber. Meanwhile, I have steam pouring out both of my ears. However, it can work to my advantage when I am having a stressful day (or week, or month) and his attitude remains calm and thoughtful.

4. He is an excellent listener

While small talk may not be his forte, he is great at carrying on a more in-depth conversation. He takes longer to speak because he is preparing his thoughts and gets straight to the point without adding a lot of fluff. Because he is not waiting to talk, he is great at listening to what others have to say and responding with a heartfelt reply. This comes in handy when we have a disagreement.  He is able to consciously listen to my side of the argument and calmly find a solution.

5. When he talks, it’s important

Like I said, he hates small talk. He does not enjoy carrying on a conversation just for the heck of talking. When he does choose to say something, it is most likely something he has thought long and hard about before saying.

6. He is a perfectionist.

If he is going to do something, it is going to be done right. He is capable of extreme focus, and thinking out his thoughts before executing them. He is cautious and able to see risks before most.

He cannot NOT be perfect at performing tasks- and as annoying as that sounds, it is useful for certain things. He will always put exactly the right amount of ingredients in the cake without carelessly adding an extra spoonful of baking soda. The Christmas Tree takes hours to pick out and decorate but always turns out beautiful.

7. He is a great writer.

While many people can picture a painting of a real-life tiger, few people can actually produce the painting. While a lot of people have creative minds, few people can successfully put the right words on paper. My husband is able to express his thoughts better by writing than with a conversation. He is able to come up with wonderful articles and short stories. See 3 Unconventional Ways to Solve an Argument, to see how we solve some arguments over text.

8. He notices the little details.

While the extroverts are busy yapping, the introverts are paying attention to what is going on around them. After our very first date, my now husband mentioned how he loved the three freckles on my face that formed a triangle. I look in the mirror every morning and several times a day, and I had never noticed them. I suppose I knew they were there subconsciously, but if you had asked me to draw a picture of myself I never would have added those…

We are polar opposites in many ways but somehow balance each other perfectly.

Introverts usually get a bad wrap for being ‘anti-social’ or ‘shy’, but truthfully they are God’s gift to us extroverts. Can you imagine what we would do without someone to listen to us?

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  1. Ok perfect post! I’m the same! My husband is an introvert too and some of your points are spot on. I’m the outgoing one. He slowly opens up. It’s taken 4 years now for him to finally be open and carry on with my family! But it was worth the wait you can’t force someone to be someone they’re not. His shyness balances my anti shyness lol we balance one another perfectly. It helps he does eventually get better when he is comfortable if he didn’t then it might be awkward sometimes. But he is so patient and kind and all those attributes you truly want and I think his personality as it is helps! But I love having an introverted husband too! I would hate him any other way!

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    1. Jacklyn says:

      YES! This describes us exactly- I am sure my family thinks he doesn’t like them. When reality he does, he just doesn’t know how to show it. At family gatherings we are all bad about talking over each other and he isn’t sure how to interject.

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      1. Ah that’s how it is with us! But it takes time. Well it did for my husband. He still can’t quite chime in… though he will try, he’s much braver now. But we’re a very loud family!

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      2. Jacklyn says:

        Our poor husbands! 😛

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  2. atkokosplace says:

    Too cute! Love this post! 🙂

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